Sex: Any Thoughts?
June 22, 2009
I’m a collector. I collect ideas, thoughts, roll them around, try to polish them, make connections and from there deduce new ideas. I love new insight. My favorite thing to do is to sit with someone and listen to them talk about their thoughts on subject A or B or something like that.
So, I’m looking for thoughts on sex, sexuality, the culture, your experiences -
- how do you think about sexuality?
- What helps you understand sex and the gospel?
- What are your hang-ups? What books have helped you?
Thoughts?
Lora
best book i’ve found : “when two become one”
Hey Lora, met your husband at Brad and Amanda’s the other day and found your blog through Mallory and Jaime. Anyway, I love the book “Sheet Music.” And have tons of thoughts on sex, but will refrain from posting all of them here.
Another book that my hubby and I went through that helped me understand sex and the Bible was “Preparing for Marriage.”
Lora.
My husband (Casey Turner) and I both knew Eric while we were at UVa. So while I’m really feeling the whisper of the Holy Spirit to go ahead and speak up, the semi-awkwardness of a blur of social know-how on the internet is making me feel a little bit shy.
I appreciate your honesty and willingness to open yourself up to Truth. Here, I am specifically referring to your post on Contentment. I was really moved especially as that is an area in which so much light is being shed on for me. But this whole movement surrounding sex is HUGE. There are so many veins to it and it has become so deeply rooted that it is unfathomable to me to know how to start moving forward.
Casey and I went to a wonderful conference in March, Ancient Paths, where we learned the importance of Blessings in our marriage (and for our future generations) that are given to us (or prohibited from us and by us) depending on our actions in regards to sex. The unseen activity that happens in the spiritual realm as we speak our vows to one another and for our closest friends and family to hear comes to act as a spiritual hedge of protection behind which sex can be a wonderful and fabulous thing.
I’m really beginning to digress.
I read Sheet Music and unfortunately, it left a bitter taste in my mouth. I felt unrest in my spirit about the way sex was presented in that book. And I am not trying to put the final word in about this book nor am I trying to offend anyone here.
Currently, I’m reading Sacred Marriage and but for a few lines that I’ve crossed out with my pen (mainly for the specific words he chooses to use) I’ve found that this man is not writing from his woundedness or insecurities but that he writes with maturity and he has allowed himself to be a vessel through which Truth is spoken clearly. It’s not just about sex but about God’s purpose in creating marriage in order to give us opportunity to become holy. If it were in my realm of capabilities, I would purchase this book and give it to all married couples.
So. I’ve really opened up and I hope that is ok. I honestly look forward to a continued discussion and can’t wait to see what comes of this.
in love,
Esther